It’s my 4 year wedding anniversary to my dear sweet dumpster husband today! When I think we’ve only been married 4 years and realize all we’ve been through, it blows my tiny mind. I wrote this last year, and it is chock full o’ pictures from our wedding and our original love story of Second Chances (which is one of my favorite posts as we do have a pretty great origin story if I do say so myself). Did you look? Pretty great right? I still love our wedding so much and all the pictures just make me smile so freaking hard.
We both had to kiss many frogs in order to find ourselves and each other and it was worth it. Would we change it to be together earlier? Maybe. But we wouldn’t have been where we were in our separate lives when we found each other which made it the perfect time to connect. We’ve been through more in 4 years than many go through in a marriage for many more years. But each step has brought us closer together. We were both a little older and wiser and it’s made us more able to handle the shit thrown our way on our own and even better, together.
This last year we lost a valued member of our family and I couldn’t have gotten through that without Christopher. He was the only person who truly understood what that all meant and that I could say, “I wish I could have some whiskey right now” after putting Sally Boy to sleep at the Vet. My husband isn’t an addict, but he didn’t judge me, he just got it and didn’t need to say anything. He just grabbed my hand and GOT IT. We still look at each other and say, “I miss Sally Boy” to the only person on the planet who really understands that profound sadness.
We welcomed two souls into the world this year as well at almost the same time as that loss occurred. Coincidence? I don’t think so. Going through In-vitro and pregnancy and birthing two beautiful babies and then their first few months of life this past year has been rough and wonderful and painful and scary and fantastic all at once. The only person on the planet who gets all that is my darling husband. He put up with all of my shitty hormonal behavior in the last year and he did it like a GD champion. Chris has risen to every occasion and jumped right in with amazing determination and love and it has made me love him more than I ever thought I was capable of loving someone.
Then her heart grew 10 times that day…..bring babies into the equation and fergetaboutit.
I always say I married him because he is the funniest person I’ve ever known and he makes me laugh harder than anyone else. That’s just more true the longer we are married. I lay in bed crying with laughter at some of the stuff he says right before we go to sleep. What in the world could be better than that, I ask you! My only suggestion in who you marry is MARRY SOMEONE WHO MAKES YOU LOSE YOUR SHIT WITH LAUGHTER. It’s the most important thing when you think about it. It helps with everything.
Today, I cannot imagine life without my partner and my heart. He got me the framed lyrics from Ben Fold’s, The Luckiest for my Soberthday a few years ago and it hangs over our bed. I am the luckiest. As with everything else in my life today, I don’t deserve it, but I am so grateful for our love. For him. For his patience and understanding and support and friendship. And as always, his great ass. Yay, love!
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