We Need to Stop Apologizing

I apologize.  A lot.  Too damn much.  It's burned so deeply and fundamentally into my being that it comes out involuntarily, even when I bump into an inanimate object,  I say I'm sorry.  "Sorry doorway that I walked into because I am so clumsy, I hope that won't leave a mark."  WHAT IS THAT?  "sorry sorry …

Hoping for Just One More Day Sober

Well here we are.  12 years sober today and sometimes feeling exactly as unsure and scared as I did That First Year. I'm going to pause here and STRONGLY recommend reading that last link right there.  It tells the story of what happened when I first got sober that so many of you ask me …

A Perfectly Average Fantastical Day

  It was a beautiful Chicago day.  The kind people talk about when they live here and know are few and far between as we live through a long cold dreary winter.  The blue sky was bright with just a sprinkling of clouds and the air was crisp.  The kind of crisp where you wear a sweatshirt, …